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Hi.
Dear Diary,
Here's my offering to you this week....
* I have a Fan Club! Thank you KpopCollege and your students for welcoming me into your family!!
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* My friend Philipp is the writer and director of "Like You Mean It". It's an intimate story between two men trying to fall back in love. Waaahhhhhh, I hope they make it. I love love stories. Anyway, he's raising money on Indigogo to finish the film. Please support if you can! Here's the link to check out trailer and donate.
* If you reside in Texas, do you know about Explore Austin Mentoring Program? My friend Ann is raising $2500 by this weekend so she can take 15 girls on a wilderness trip for three weeks! That's crazy, Ann. Good luck to ya!
Please support if you can! Here's the link to donate.
Explore Austin’s mentoring program guides underserved youth on a 6-year (6th – 12th grade) journey to leadership. The year-round outdoor adventure curriculum imposes unique physical, emotional, and mental challenges, and adult mentors help translate these challenges into meaningful life lessons. The end results are young leaders of character, integrity and resilience who are prepared to succeed in life.
Now on to the main attraction....
First, here's a definition of destiny.
des·ti·ny
ˈdestinē/
Something I'd like to add: these 'events that will necessarily happen' are the chain of events from the start point which is ALWAYS NOW. Not from birth, your childhood, your past life, your future but, it starts NOW. Just keep this in mind as you read on.
So, what determines your destiny?
Three words.
Decisions, decisions, decisions.
I think there are other factors at play too.
For example: pre-destined events and meetings; cosmically and astrologically speaking, you may have particular advantages or disadvantages in your chart; what was passed down to you from your parents and ancestors (both biologically and spiritually); etc.....
These are basically your "It Is What It Is" stuff. Depending on what you believe and what you do, you're on the course to a certain destiny.
Then, free will comes in.
Free will is choice. Our decisions. God/The Universe gave us the capability to use whatever man-power and god-power we can tap into and decide our own fate. If we can master our mind and emotions, we can master our destiny.
For example, I lived with cystic acne for the majority of my life. It runs on my mom side of the family. Growing up I would hear from so many adults (Korean), "Oh, how unfortunate that your pretty face is plagued with acne. You see, God is a fair God. You can't have it all. Don't worry, it'll go away when you get married and start having kids."
Guys, I believed this shit. I really thought I would have to suffer acne til I got married and started having kids. But then people started saying their acne got worse while pregnant. WTF?! Then, I thought, "Wait, how the hell am I gonna even find a husband with all this acne?!" I felt hopeless. There was nowhere for me to go. Until I realized the only other option I have, since I have tried everything, is change my limiting belief. From there, I started to make different decisions, which made me take different actions, which gave me different results. I am now 3 years acne free, and going strong. All naturally. Holler.
Palm readers don't tell you this but, did you know that the lines on your hands can change over the course of time? Well, as long as you change. But, you get my point. You're not fated to one kind of life. You have the absolute power to change and or create your destiny.
You feel that personal power?
Decisions shape your destiny.
Honestly, decision-making is a skill. Or listening to your heart is a skill. It really is. I'm gradually getting better at it. I think one of the best things parents can do for their kids is to teach them how to make decisions....for themselves. I didn't really grow up with that skill instilled in me, in fact, Korean parents are known to 'know what's best' for their kids. Decisions were made for me and I became an angry little girl. Can't you tell? My sister and I have been parenting ourselves for a few years now, together. Thank goodness for that gift. We love our parents but, we still got issues with them. I love you mom and dad. :D
And just like anything else, it takes practice. You gotta keep making decisions, to get better at making decisions. Me and my sister, we're putting in the work and practice....trust.
If you think about it, we're making decisions daily and sometimes we're not even aware of it. Maybe rather than forcing ourselves to make more decisions, what if, if we just became conscious of the decisions we're already making? You're going to find yourself making decisions throughout the day (for example, what time to get up, what to wear, what to eat, when to eat, how you interact with people, how you don't, your attitude while driving, how impeccable your words are, etc.....so, rather than trying to make many big decisions, just step back and look at all smaller decisions you're already making. Where are they rooted from? "How you do anything is how you do everything", and maybe it'll be insightful to see on a smaller scale where there is less judgment to 'do it right'.
In the book, Awaken The Giant Within by Tony Robbins, our decisions are rooted from our emotions. Btw, this book is a GAME-CHANGER. Our emotions are what drives us to make decisions. What emotions are driving you to make decisions? Is it gratitude? Is it guilt? Is it kindness? Is it power? Is it humility? Is it low self-esteem? Is it to serve? Is it to be served? Is it from love or is it from fear? Basically everything we do boils down to two things.....we make choices to either avoid PAIN or create PLEASURE.
That's human nature.....and we're that simple. We will make choices to either avoid PAIN or create PLEASURE. Omg. Mind freaking BLOWWWWN. Whichever wins out for you, you will choose.
For example, let's say you want to quit smoking cigarettes. The idea of not smoking creates pleasure. You won't feel like a slave to something, you won't have to hear people telling you you're killing yourself with cancer stick, you'll feel like you can breathe easier, you feel good about working out, you save money, blah blah blah. But, the idea of not smoking also brings up fear...fear of change, loss, uncertainty. It's gonna suck not to smoke and talk on the phone, not to smoke and drive, not to smoke and drink, not to smoke when pissed, not to smoke after sex, not to smoke in the morning, not to smoke after eating, blah blah blah. If pain wins over pleasure, you will continue smoking. And vice versa, if you are so fed up with smoking and your body is fed up with it too, the pain of indulging in it will not be worth it and not wanting to smoke will win over.
Then to take it one step further back, your emotions are driven by your beliefs.
Think about why there are wars, why people fight, why the disconnects happen in the world . Beliefs.
Some of us will die for our beliefs. That's how powerful beliefs are.
Your beliefs are the cause for your emotions, and your emotions are the cause for your decisions, and your decisions are the cause for your destiny.
Decisions shape your destiny. Actually, it's really your BELIEFS or LIMITING BELIEFS that shape your destiny. Not your karma (speaking of karma, karma is just energetic memories and soul contracts...once the lesson is learned, karma is cleansed and released), not your natal chart, not numerology, not your palms, not superstitions, not your agents, not your manager, not casting directors, not your mother, not your father, not your husband, not your wife, not your dog, not your iPhone, not Facebook, not what somebody said about you, not what somebody didn't say about you, etc..... Ok, maybe it'll put a dent in your day, week, month, or year....but, ultimately, your destiny is in your hands.
Woof, that sounds like the most exciting thing and the scariest thing all at once, yes?
Actually, that's good. That means I'm alive. And I'm about to make a decision.
** Feel free to comment and let me know your thoughts.
Have a THRIVING weeks, peeps.
with MAAAAAD LOVE,
x Alex
